What stimulated this blog post was while I was at the bus stop I witnessed a beautiful black mother tell her beautiful daughter that “You are just like your father…. You both have no brains.” My thoughts were all over the place. My first thought was, Okay perhaps she is a single woman raising her child on her own. Then I thought about her little girl. She was no more than 4 or 5 years of age. She was looking up at her mother with innocence and bewilderment.
This really bothered my spirit and although I have no children, I firmly believe in Proverbs 22:6 “Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it.” I know it is not easy raising children; however, with so many obstacles in LIFE, “we” as mothers and fathers, sisters and brothers, aunts and uncles and as a community should be positive role models and equip our children. Please note that I am not judging. I am merely bringing up a subject to ponder on which is “how to be together when we are apart?” There must be a way to lift “our children” up without tearing someone else down.
Written by Daviea Taylor
Piggybacking off of Daviea’s post:
When talking to your child, you have to be conscious and cautious of what you say and how you say it. Rather a single mom/dad or a temporary divided family, you still have to remain a unit. I always use the phrase “two parent lifestyle”, it speaks on the fact that we (mom, dad and family) are on one accord while raising our child/ children in a way that beneficial for the growth of the child. Also keeping in mind that verbally scaring a child against a parent can easily backfire. Children are not stupid by any means and it’s not hard to realize that they give us wisdom and insight. Remember the African proverb and biblical statement is “Every generation gets weaker and wiser”. Weak in numbers, wiser individually. Your mouth can be as deadly as a weapon…..But your heart , soul and wisdom can multiply and raise nations.