Curiosity Killed The Cat……………Communication Killed The Marriage!

Within any relationship communication is key. Communication (in Webster’s words) is the activity of conveying information through the exchange of ideas, feelings, intentions, attitudes, expectations, perceptions or commands, as by speech, gestures, writings, behavior and possibly by other means such as electromagnetic, chemical or physical phenomena. It is the meaningful exchange of information between two or more participants. Which in a sum of words……keeps the wheels between each other turning.

While during an argument or disagreement……the other person is wrong, this validates the reason that you are arguing/ disagreeing in the first place. So that is the first thing established. The second thing that is obviously established is……..there is a need to let you know why I’m right!……………That my dear is where we all go wrong. The tone sometimes changes and an escalation of the voice might occur and then ready.. set… go……let’s get ready to RUMBLE.

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Black Marriage is Fighting Extinction!

I was excited this time last year to go home and find engagement announcements and wedding invitations in the mail. This year I had the privilege of attending 4 cultural weddings, that by the way were amazing, that confirmed my excitement even more. Previously, I was a little nervous that marriages among heterosexual black couples were being phased out. I began to notice a pattern of friends, families and associates that are in 5, 7 and 11 year relationships as just ‘boyfriend and girlfriend’.  I am not in the position to judge anyone Continue reading