Birds and The Bees…….

Parents never want to envision their child having sex.  In a perfect world, our babies would remain babies and we would be able to protect them from any and everything.  Unfortunately, our babies grow up and are forced out into the everyday hustle and bustle of life, constantly meeting new people and gaining new experiences.

At some point every parent must have the dreaded conversation about where babies come from.  Let’s face it; images of sex are everywhere you look, on TV, on social media and in public places.  I truly don’t recall all the Continue reading

Black Marriage is Fighting Extinction!

I was excited this time last year to go home and find engagement announcements and wedding invitations in the mail. This year I had the privilege of attending 4 cultural weddings, that by the way were amazing, that confirmed my excitement even more. Previously, I was a little nervous that marriages among heterosexual black couples were being phased out. I began to notice a pattern of friends, families and associates that are in 5, 7 and 11 year relationships as just ‘boyfriend and girlfriend’.  I am not in the position to judge anyone Continue reading

Hello……..Is There Help Out There?

Losing your job can be disappointing, but having children and losing your job and health insurance can be devastating. You never really know the impact of health insurance until you don’t have any. As adults we can try to fend for ourselves but our children, dealing with the germs in daycare and kiddy cooties……….need healthcare. Depending upon the situation, state assistance may or may not be an option. Don’t be discouraged……. there are options out there.

I know a few people that attempted to take advantage of Obama care. 4 out of the 6 of them claimed that they could not afford the monthly co pay. The other two are utilizing the healthcare with full time employment and seem to be able to pay. Most people, who are reaching out for help, need it. Our ‘system’ has become so greedy that they do very little informing on outlets that can help the lower/ poor class citizens.

Walking into a hospital and asking about payment plans and asking about clinics can sometimes help but most hospital and doctor visits want their money almost immediately after the service is performed. There are sliding scale clinics that are out there that are based on income and can provide service for the whole family. A lot of the doctors are paid by a third party resource so there is no decrease in quality of care that they provide.

Catholic Charities Free Health Care and Squirrel Hill Health Clinic are just two of the options for free sliding scale clinics. Here are two websites that might be of some help for insurance needs.

http://freeclinicspa.org/memberclinics.html

http://bewellpgh.org/category/freesliding-scale-clinics/

 

Daddy…..The Beautician!

I am delightfully tickled to see fathers doing their daughters hair. It brings me joy to see a lot of the attempts at ponytails and curls. I was riding the bus one day and witnessed a father sweating and completely focused on putting two ponytails in his daughter’s hair. She kept asking “Daddy are you done yet” and his response was “hunny I’m trying to get it like mommy does it.” I could not contain the smile that spread across my face as I tried not to make it seem as if I was laughing at the situation but actually enjoying the effort he was putting forth.

Rather single or in a relationship, Continue reading

Father’s Day for Moms……..Really?

“Happy Father’s Day Mom”…I quickly had to correct my son when he uttered these words to me this past Father’s Day.  I explained to him that although I am a single mother, I could and would never be able to fill the role of his father or any male for that matter. Surely his father’s name wouldn’t even be mentioned as one of the nominees for The Father of The Year Award, but I still could never accept that pat on the back.

For starters, it’s spiritually and biologically impossible. Futhermore, I already had my day in May; it’s called Mother’s Day. I truly wonder where we as a culture went wrong with accepting, allowing and at times making fun of this very serious issue.  Continue reading

That’s just my baby’s daddy!

No daggers thrown to B-Roc and The Biz, but that phrase has caused quite a stir in the African American communities across the nation. The phrase ‘baby daddy’ places a negative connotation in people’s minds, especially in the corporate world. Not to say that the phrase is a false statement but the way that it is used and thrown around is not good. We are not naïve to the fact and we all understand that sometimes Continue reading